How hero-worshipping Rob Petrie ruined my life

Was watching some old episodes of The Dick Van Dyke Show late last night and realized a sad truth.

Rob Petrie ruined my life.

Actually, coveting his life ruined my life. The show was a pernicious influence on me.  Convinced me it was possible to live conflicting lives.  Bohemain by day, suburbanite by night and weekend.

Rob Petrie's a writer and a homeowner, husband, and dad.  He spends his working days in New York City collaborating with other artistic types, then comes home to his tract house in New Rochelle to mow the lawn, go to PTA meetings, and play bridge with the neighbors.

He divides himself more completely than Don Draper on Mad Men.

Rob’s happier leading his double life than Draper is, of course.  Rob has advantages Don doesn’t.

For one thing, Rob’s coworkers are actually creative and very good at their jobs.

For another, Rob comes home to a hot ex-dancer wife who is clearly crazy about him.

But serving two masters never works out well in real life.

You can’t serve both Art and Scott lawn care products.

On the other hand, it seems to have worked for Carl Reiner the show’s creator who based it on his own life.

So maybe the problem was with me. Having a mortgage isn’t the problem.  It's not having had the talent.

Or the courage.

Or the luck.

Still a great show.

Watched a terrific episode in which Alan Brady browbeats Rob into punching up a Broadway play Alan’s starring in.  Rob has to do the work in secret because Alan doesn’t want to offend the play’s author, Tennessee Williams.

Ok.  It’s not actually Tennessee Williams.  It’s a Tennessee Williams-esque playwright named Harper Worthington Yates.

Played by Strother Martin of all people, looking more dapper, plumper, less degenerate than you remember him from Cool Hand Luke.

Maybe it’s not Williams but a composite or somebody who was famous at the time but whose work and reputation have faded in the collective memory.

Funnier if you think of him as Williams though.

Of course, it’s television, in the 60s, so you have to picture a Tennessee Williams who doesn’t drink, keeps his hair combed and his tie tied, and focuses his affections on his dog, Mister Ben, rather than on rough trade.

But…Southerner, courtly, thin mustache, prolific writer, Pulitzer Prize winner.  Gay.

The episode includes two obviously gay characters.

Well, obvious to adults at least.  I doubt I caught it when I was I was a little kid watching the show in syndication on days when I was home sick from school.

The characters’ gayness is not treated as the joke.  There are only two gay jokes and neither one is primarily a gay joke.  The first is part of the set-up to a joke about people who worship their pets.

The Tennessee William character explains his devotion to Mister Ben by telling Alan that the dog is all he has left since “I lost Blossom.”

And Alan responds, slightly incredulously, suddenly thinking he has to revamp his whole impression of the playwright, “I didn’t know you were married.”

The playwright gives him a startled look as though he can’t believe Alan’s that obtuse.  “Blossom was Mister Ben’s wife.”

The other joke is a follow-up to Rob’s run in with the costume designer for the play.  Buck Brown.  That’s his name.  Which I guess is a gay joke in itself.  But it’s a throwaway.  Alan has called Rob out to Connecticut where the play is having a try-out but to keep the secret Alan introduces Rob to the director as his tailor Vito.  The director happens to be having an argument with Buck Brown over one of Brown’s designs and he asks “Vito” for his professional opinion.  Rob takes the director’s side, which brings Brown storming into Alan's dressing room to confront the nobody who’s dared to criticize a Buck Brown original!

Brown is more flamboyant that Harper Worthington Yates.

Yates might---might---have been passed off as a soft-spoken, excessively well-mannered, slightly fussy, sexually diffident straight man.

There’s no mistaking Buck Brown.

But his flamboyance isn’t a signifier of his homosexuality.  It’s the angry song of his art and his artistic pride.  This is the award-winning costume designer for seventeen Broadway shows, an artist who will bedeck a leading lady with apricot bows and then defend his design choice fiercely against the casual, middlebrow judgment of an ordinary men’s tailor named Vito.

The joke in the scene isn’t a gay man throwing a hissy fit.  Buck Brown’s tirade is far from that anyway.  The joke is on Rob, a show biz professional in his own right, for his being unable to stick up for himself because of the ridiculous position Alan’s put him in and having to stand there, stammering an apology, as a fellow pro berates him and dismisses him as a philistine.

Later, though, back in New Rochelle, after he’s mentioned that a man named Buck Brown essentially beat him up, verbally, Laura says, “Buck Brown the cowboy star?” and Rob says grumpily, “Hardly.”  Which is a sissy joke but turned on its head, because Rob isn’t expressing contempt for Brown, he’s letting out his anger at Alan for putting him on the spot like that where he was more or less in the traditional sissy’s predicament of having to submit to bullying and he’s confessing his self-loathing for having submitted.

Rob thinks he should have stood up for himself.  To Alan, not to Brown.

The Dick Van Dyke show was a very enlightened and sophisticated and even subversive show for its time and context, on a number of issues.  That’s another way it’s an argument against Mad Men.  Through the lives of Rob and Laura it shows the great social changes of the the 1960s arising out of the lives of the Northeastern creative middle class, which is of course the very class Mad Men posits the 60s were necessary to destroy.

But the 60s wiped out Rob and Laura and left us with a more stylish but simultaneously more self-indulgent and more conservative class of Dons and Bettys with careers.

That’s another post.

What was the point of this post again?

Oh yeah.  Rob Petrie ruined my life.

Him and his damn briefcase.

In that episod, as Rob is about to head off to Connecticut, he piles all the drafts of the script he’s been working on into his briefcase.

A real briefcase.  Leather covered.  Hard.  Brass-trimmed. With locks that snap.

Do any writers carry briefcases like that anymore?

Jeezus.  Do they even have any papers to put in them?

A present day Rob Petrie, summoned by her boss to Connecticut, would stuff her netbook into a backpack.

If she’d even think of actually going to Connecticut.  She and her Alan Brady could deal with the rewrites over the internet, with her emailing her drafts to his Blackberry.

Who needs a briefcase?

I still want one though.

Which is the problem.

Rob’s briefcase is symbolic.

That’s a lawyer’s or an insurance man’s briefcase.

In those days a writer would have carried a soft-leather attache.  The battered one he’d been given as a gift for his high school graduation.  If he carried anything.  He’d have been more likely to just roll up his pages and stuff them in his jacket pocket.

The briefcase was a signifier.  It was there to reassure the audience that despite his spending his day among television stars, Pulitzer Prize winning playwrights, flamboyant costume designers, and other writers, not to mention beautiful actresses bedecked in apricot bows, that Rob was still a regular guy.  Just like the folks at home.  Another nine to fiver with a wife and a kid and a mortgage and a lawn to mow and boring, uncreative neighbors who were dentists and dentists’ wives and members of the PTA for whom a night of bridge was the highlight of the week.

But I hadn’t studied deconstructionism when I was eight.  I probably didn’t know who Tennessee Williams was, let alone Jacques Lacan.  In fact, when I did become aware of Tennessee Williams I probably thought he was like Harper Taylor Yates.

I learned a lot about real life from The Dick Van Dyke Show.

Too much.

I took it all literally.

Like that briefcase.

I learned the wrong lesson from that.

It convinced me that it was possible to own a briefcase like that, and all the middle-class accoutrements, and encumberances, that it symbolized, and still hope to be a writer and spend my working days in the company of other writers and beautiful actresses with or without apricot bows.

You know what, though?  I got a birthday coming up next month?  Maybe I could ask for a briefcase.

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Comments

[Phil Nugent]

FWIW, I always assumed that Martin was playing Tennessee Williams. But then, I always thought that Martin looked and sounded like a pocket-size Tennessee Williams.

Some time I need to tell the world how hero-worshiping Carl Kolchak ruined my life. It all starts with this hat...

[Victoria]

And I thought love and romance and domesticity was just like in those Doris Day movies...even worse, Mitzi Gaynor.

Imagine my dismay when it turned out I would not be walking around the house in high heels and satin capri pants with a skirt in back.

[Linkmeister]

But Victoria, you could have!

[Dr X]

All the way through this one, I was thinking that this is some marvelous deconstruction.

[Victoria]

Linkmeister, you haven't seen my house!

But you have inspired me for next Halloween.

[Uncle Merlin]

"You can’t serve both Art and Scott lawn care products." God knows I've tried!

My Dad had one of those real big snap lock briefcases when he started at GE. Perry Mason had one, any good actor on TV had one

I always took Ozzie & Harriet as my dream life, I was sure my younger brother was just around the corner, would be born next year. TV had a big influence on us, I guess like all the internet today for kids but TV had no direct connectivity for us, we had to imagine ourselves there. Now its instant connect and participation a very different landscape.

[Linkmeister]

Grins. My work here is done.

[Mike Schilling]

I had no idea what gays were at 10 or so (when I first found Dick Van Dyke reruns on daytime TV), but I knew that Buck Brown was very effeminate, and that that was supposed to be funny. And there were other episodes with similar characters. You might recall the one where Rob is invited to a charity fundraiser. He meets a poet who donates a year's royalties from his book of verse, "Lavender Lollipops".

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

[Mike Schilling]

The Dick Van Dyke show was a very enlightened and sophisticated and even subversive show for its time and context, on a number of issues.

The other episode that comes to mind is the one where Rob's post-partum psychosis leads him to believe that they've brought the wrong baby home from the hospital. By withholding a crucial bit of information, Greg Morris (the black guy from Mission:Impossible) allows Rob to make a complete fool of himself. And how does Rob react to this racially charged situation? He looks sheepish and asks Morris and his wife in for coffee.

[Kevin Wolf]

Always happy to read Lance on Rob and Laura. Brilliant.

[Belvoir]

Really sharp and thoughtful post. Reminds me of reading how Cheever, before fame and suburbia, would put on a suit and tie each morning and...go to his tiny writing room in the same building he lived in, to punch the clock on his writing. Your mentioning the signifier of the briefcase reminded me of that. And of many accounts I've read over the years of husbands too ashamed to tell their wives that they had been fired, suiting up and spending sad days in the library. It was an awful blow to their pride. And some part of Cheever deeply needed reassurance he was "normal", productive, a breadwinner like other husbands. I don't know quite how his sexual leanings and desires affected his sense of self that way- that affirmation of "normalcy" he craved, but it was probably part of it.

Rob Petrie's dual lives- suburban husband and writer for Broadway, was pretty interesting, as you describe it. Theatre people really were disreputable, famously, and even up to the 1950's. Or especially in the 50's- there was a whole new middle class reading Emily Post for the first time , suburban pretension got a boost. Hollywood had to put a suburban gloss on showbiz people to make them acceptable.

I still think it funny in "All About Eve" that Celeste Holm and her successful playwright husband Lloyd are portrayed as so tackily nouveau riche, to me at least- her in furs, their country house and fancy car- but to the film, they are meant to be conventional, successful, heterosexual, non-theatre freaks. He's framed as a successful businessman, not an artiste. At all. They're incredibly bourgeois, and even Margo absorbs bourgeois assumptions that she's over the hill because she's 40. Don't recall anyone in that film really disagreeing.

Anyway, very cool thoughts on that curious divide in Rob Petrie's life, Lance. Reiner may have claimed it was like that for him, but let's face it- you can't trust show-biz sorts for the truth, lol.